Did I Get Laid During My Travels?

I get asked this repeatedly. Did you meet anyone? Did you have fun? Did you like it? Given that, I feel that it’s only right to address the what’s most important to the people.

While I’m usually conservative to a fault in my dating, the short answer is –

Yes. I did. And I had a great time.

I was in the island of Sicily, Italy (Florence, Rome) and Spain (Barcelona) for 5 weeks. 

I won’t not go into details about who or what, but I will say that I enjoyed my time with folks, each with its own varied degrees of connection whether it was a just kiss, long talks or something more intimate.

Would I have had this same experience if I met them here in the States? Likely not. None fit the restrictive mold I’ve judged by and it was refreshing. Long standing expectations were out the window.

I didn’t care that he didn’t speak English well. I didn’t care that he didn’t have a corporate job. I didn’t care he was 10 years younger than me. I didn’t care that he wasn’t tall. I didn’t care it was the first night I was there.

I didn’t care if anything long term could or would transpire.

And I don’t care that each of those statements represents a different experience either.

I can’t remember enjoying my time with someone based on mere connection and nothing else. I was driven by the simple, basic interest of chemistry.

He was charming. I felt I could trust him on his bike. He was so sweet and patient. Our time was fun! I was taken care of. Holding hands felt natural. I couldn’t be anymore comfortable. I didn’t want the night to end.

Here at home, we get so caught up with a “type” or checklist before we consider investing any time with someone. I’m notorious for being too picky and that’s not a great trait.

It’s no surprise, when traveling, you let go of your inhibitions being in a foreign environment. No one knows you. It also helps being in a sub community of like minded people.

Going through this helped to reset what’s most important. I’m not completely disregarding some minimum standards of what I want in someone. However, I am more open to allowing the space to explore connection with people that don’t seem to be a fit at first.

I am more confident in my ability to have chemistry with different types of people if I just give it a chance. 

Will I see any of these wonderful people again? Who knows, but the experience was worth it and I hope to continue with this perspective into my daily life here when I return.

‘Til Next, Elisa