TSW is a goal-oriented program. Each blog is pivoted around a goal(s) to help users identify the things they want to accomplish in their lives to build out their list.
It’s not about IF, but what kind of prison you have. It became very evident to me when I was asked recently WHEN I will be ready to work from home from another country.
For every objection, I was presented a workaround. To this day, I keep referring to this as time away from work. It’s not. I’m still working, just somewhere else. I have to retrain my brain to recognize this. My mind was locked in and I didn’t even know it.
A mental prison is our own set of limitations we live by.
Your mind is programmed to think its not your choice or your fault. I can’t help being in the position I am in now. Other things, people or places are the reason. We don’t see it as a prison, we just see it as a way of life.
- I can’t lose weight, I’m built this way
- I can’t quit or change my job
- I can’t be accepted by that group of people
- I can’t buy that house
- I can’t do that harder role
- I can’t wear a bikini (psst! I finally did it this past summer!)
- I can’t move from my hometown
- I can’t date him/her
- I can’t write a 100 goals
- I can’t run a business or a service
- I can’t be alone
- I can’t find my passion
- I can’t…
Fear keeps the prison lights on, and I am my own warden.
In hindsight, before January 2016, I was living in a long term limitation (prison) for the last 5-7 years. I was stuck in this life thinking this is how it must work (standby, the marriage and kids will happen on its own). I refused to design a Plan B.
With the help of the 100, it took me a full year to realize that I needed it. I rejected the idea that my life was possibly meant for something else and certainly didn’t think for something more.
How do I to continue on this track of mental liberation?
One of my 2017 goals is to tap into sources that inspire me like books, podcasts, traveling, exercises, puzzles, and/or spend more time with people, places or activities that inspire me. I have to be conscious in feeding this side of myself. I cannot tell you how elated I am going to SXSW for the pure intention of inspiration. (I bought the platinum badge $1150 #yolo)
I want to rip out this prison(s). I want to convert this into a think box. When I am confronted with an idea that makes me uncomfortable or nervous, my goal will be to respond with “I will think about it”…or maybe write it down as a goal. This is not meant to put off the topic or reject it later. I am to hold myself accountable which I’ve drastically improved since this journey. I am no longer a warden. I am an enabler.
I am also not saying yes, just let me consider it.
Maybe I will…
- Consider renting my place on AirBnB or house swap
- Consider hosting a group vision board exercise
- Consider offering a private hosting service for parties traveling to Austin
- Consider putting a timeline to changing my work status
- Consider being an art star
My personal litmus test “What would my eighty year old self say?” keeps me in check in some ways. I will not hold myself back from living my life to the fullest – challenge, test myself. When you’re older, you won’t have the same luxuries as you do today such as health, energy, spirit, or that glowing skin. As Mark Cuban says, “You will never be as young as you are today”.
Hell, maybe even professional classy (private) photos. I’m sure my eighty year old self would appreciate that.
‘Til Next, Elisa
Ps. I’ve had a few of you reach out to me about completing the 100 Goal Exercise. I really enjoy helping folks. Don’t be shy, I have endless energy and passion for self-development. Thank you so much for the wonderful feedback!