Fear. My Gateway to Growth.

TSW is a goal-oriented program. Each blog is pivoted around a goal(s) to help users identify the things they want to accomplish in their lives.

If the 100 Goals are teaching me anything, it’s that fear is an invitation to growth.

I’ve sensed fear of humiliation, fear of risk, fear of discomfort, fear of loss, or fear of the unknown a number of times while tackling the 100 this year. I used to view fear as a warning sign to not approach and avoid.

Now, when I feel it, I get excited. I know I’m about to test myself and push my boundaries in a different way I hadn’t imagined. I’ve reconfigured how I perceive fear.

  • I feared that I would humiliate myself by cooking for a large group and the food would come out terrible.  I hosted friends for dinner, the food came out great, they ate it up, and now I’ m always into hosting friends.
  • I feared that I would risk exposing my bank accounts in some scam for an overseas transaction. I created a separate account, I paid the Chinese manufacturer online, I received the set of goods, and now I’m on my second order.
  • I feared the discomfort and intimidation in learning a complex game (craps) and not catching on fast enough compared to my friends. I learned it, won big, and now I’m teaching my mom if you haven’t already seen it in my Instagram.

 

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When I look over this year, I realize how absurd I was in holding myself back.

My next fear (challenge) will likely be in my next post. I’m nervous to share some intimate thoughts I’ve developed and a new perspective on my life. I wonder what my judgmental friends will think. What about those frenemies that would love to translate it into a negative for their gain and entertainment?

Recently, I listened to Malcom Gladwell’s (Revisionist History) podcast about how most basketball players refuse to shoot underhanded for the foul shot. The main reason because it was sissy-looking even though most times one will make the shot more than the overhand.

One player, Rick Barry, did it for most of his career and he did it because he didn’t care what others thought of him. He would not allow the collective perspective to influence his decision. His goal was to make the point and he did it every time.

I sense fear with this next post. I’m nervous and excited, but I will make my point.

‘Til Next,

Elisa

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